Behind the Words

I’m Cary. A British Dominant, writer, and former slave, now fully in command of my own world. I live in the UK with my cat, enjoying a calm and deliberate lifestyle that centres around control, creativity, and purpose. I worked for years in theatre and event management until the 2020 pandemic shifted everything. Now I write full time, exploring the power, beauty, and intensity of real BDSM relationships.

BDSM isn’t a kink I dabble in. It has shaped the course of my life. In my early twenties, I lived for several years as a 24/7 live-in slave under contract to a skilled Master. That experience didn’t diminish me—it defined me. It taught me what true surrender looks like, what it feels like to be owned, and what it takes to own someone properly. When I became a Master, I brought that knowledge with me. I understand both sides of the leash. And that makes me the kind of Dominant who sees you, knows what you need, and will demand your best.

My dominance is grounded, quiet, and absolute. I create structure, rituals, and expectations that make you feel secure and clear in your role. I value obedience, service, and attention to detail. I reward loyalty and punish disobedience. But above all, I know how to build a space where a submissive can truly thrive.

I am open to new connections. Whether you are looking for meaningful service, long-term dynamics, or simply wish to explore your submissive side under proper guidance, I’m open to seeing where it leads.

Sexually, I am versatile but prefer to lead. I lean towards men but am open to all genders. I’m not here for shallow encounters or fantasy roleplay with no follow-through. I want depth, dedication, and someone ready to serve with intent.

If you crave structure, if your body responds to calm command, if your mind races with the need to please and surrender, you may find something here that changes you. Step forward, speak respectfully, and we’ll see what you’re made of.